Disclaimer: The video's I attached are for entertainment value only!
If you put into a search engine like Google, Yahoo or Safari, pretty much any search engine on dating and relationships, I will guarantee you will find about 167,000,000, results if not more. That is a lot of dating advice and can make my head spin if I actually started clicking on those links.
If I leave it up to the numbers, I’d better get working on more dates. I'm a pretty driven person and die-hard optimist, so I choose to stay on the positive side, and like to believe there is a silver-lining to all of this mumbo, dating, jumbo of mine.
Date 5.
This was another online meeting. After our series of dates, and remembering his online profile, I was struck by the mannerism of what he wrote. I think he should have written his header as: I might have time to date, BUT only if my schedule allows.
I gave date 5 a green light which evolved into 4 dates total. We went from green light, to yellow light to that damn red light very quickly. So on with the dates I go.
Another glimpse into my small world, date 5 and I shared some mutual friends, and of course we shared the same interest with one another.
First meeting was dinner/drinks, the evening was great and we both had a fun time. There was chemistry between us and we were able to carry on good conversation with each other. The date was so good, I even went against my first date rule, which is no kissing on the first date. DANG IT!
We stayed in contact for the next couple of days, while he was preparing for a race weekend and I had plans to spend some time with a girlfriend. Now, for those who know me, I am very kind, accommodating, and always willing to go the extra mile. So, when the opportunity arise, I offered to bring dinner to him after he completed a race he was doing that day. This was technically our second date, I made soup and brought it over to him, after eating dinner, we hung out for the rest of the evening. We already made plans to see each other the next day, as I was to accompany him to his next race.
When I think about it, we had only few hours to really be with each other before the day was consumed with race and hundreds of people around us. I’m fine with this, I’ve done my fair share of races and know what it takes to get prepared for one. We parted ways that evening, but no real plans as to when we would catch up again.
The dynamics of date 5 was different than any man I had ever dated before, he had previously been married and had 3 children. For me to consider dating someone with children, well it was definitely a new experience for me, but something I considered giving a try. As quick as the sparks flew, was as quick as the sparks died. This guy is great I am sure of it, he has a lot to offer some great girl out there, but let’s be honest here, how can you date a person when the attitude is “I’ll see you when I see you”, I mean really, I rather the guy just say, “hey, I’m just not that into you”. I can deal with honesty, but wishy washy, I have zero tolerance for this and I find it quite shocking for someone who is raising children, to not really know what he wants. Now, I will go as far a saying, there wasn’t a connection or he has other agendas? But, like I said before, honestly goes a far distance with me and especially at the fine age of 38. Yes, I have considered that maybe he did know what he wanted, but it became clear, that my wants and needs were different from his and vice-versa.
After our last meeting/date, hell whatever you want to call it, we agreed being friends was probably better route, I mean, I guess I was asking for too much when it came to simple communication. Once again, my sister had to ask me if I read the book “He just not that into you”, I laughed when she asked me this, yes, I have read it, highlighted it, slept with it, stomped on it, ran it over with my bike tires. Yep, I get it. I’m a smart girl and I don’t need reasons from a guy to validate why or why not he may like me. It’s simple, yes or no. Once again, bright red light makes its appearance.
Date 6, ahh yes another online meeting.
So Date 6, There is not much to say about date 6, met for drinks, he seemed very nice, but I wasn’t engaged, he felt more like another guy who could be a good friend. But, maybe it was my “I could really careless attitude at this point”, well probably is more like it, and so red light, yellow light, green light??? It was time to take a break from all this dating.
At this fine point of dating, I was ready to turn my vodka and chaka khan on.
Sadly, I couldn't find the entire video clip from this movie, but most definitely funny
Reset, review and focus.
I wished I could say that I have great dating advice for the single people out there looking, but I don’t really have anything impressive to offer you or at least something that most of us haven’t already heard of. If I have one key of advice to give on the aspect of dating , it is remember to have fun, be you and love each moment with the people whom’s paths you cross. You never know when you or them will leave a footprint on the world you walk.
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Yes, I remind myself that fun, laughter, and just being yourself is what dating should be all about.
As I come to a close on my blogs of dating, I can’t ignore the silver-lining in all of this. For me after writing and reading about my own experiences, I realized the one date I thoroughly enjoyed, the one person where I felt I could be myself completely, was all the way back to date 1. Realizing the person whom I longed for, the person who knows me and all parts of me, the person that brought me two corn on the cobs on his last visit, the person that woke up early on a Sunday morning to tell me to have fun at my first cyclo-cross race and was looking forward to my call to hear about it, the person that always has a smile on his face when he calls, the person that listened to me cry when Frosty died, the person who always makes sure my world is going good......that person being, oh yes, DATE 1.
Yes, he knows now, I have told him, 4 months of building a friendship has been the ultimate gift any one person could ask for. I’m not sure if he will have me, or even if he wants me, or what direction this journey will take me. But, I will be happy regardless. He has truly been the most wonderful, caring, genuine and supportive person I have ever met. His friendship has left an footprint on my life, AND one that will not be forgotten.
This song is to you KCB (Oh yes, I used KCB). Thank you, my deepest gratitude to you!
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